Happy Monday! I know…it’s MONDAY! Weekends are so wonderful. They are full of fun, family and relaxation. Then along rolls Monday…the dreaded day to start another week. (and it’s worse when it’s raining, like it is here today.) You remember the song, Rainy Days and Mondays, always get me down? That is exactly why I have decided to try something new, beginning today. Each Monday I will post “Monday’s Motivational Moment.” This will give us something to start our week off on a positive note.
To begin with, the definition of Motivation is as follows:
1.the act or an instance of motivating, or providing with a reason to act in a certain way: I don’t understand what her motivation was for quitting her job. Synonyms: motive, inspiration, inducement, cause, impetus.
2.the state or condition of being motivated: We know that these students have strong motivation to learn.
3.something that motivates; inducement; incentive: Clearly, the company’s long-term motivation is profit.
So my new challenge to myself is, to motivate all my friends and followers each Monday! Trust me, I am as human as the rest of you and when I woke up this morning to rain and dullness and realizing it was a Monday morning, everything inside me wanted to pull the covers over my head and go back to sleep. But as I was laying there I thought of my family, friends, and followers and immediately filled with an excitement to connect….to say something that may somehow help us all reach higher ground today. So I felt compelled to get up and get going. I could hardly fix my coffee fast enough because I wanted to be with all of you. Maybe that sounds silly but it isn’t. We are all part of the circle of people that we influence. I want to make a difference. I want to share the insights and tips that have helped me grow. I want to develop more each day and see others around me grow as well. I guess being motivated involves being passionate about something! So today, my question to you is, “what are you passionate about?” What makes every nerve ending in your body tingle when you think about it? What causes you to truly feel ALIVE? These are the things that will motivate you and inspire you. When you are passionate about something, you want to give your all. I encourage you to start your week thinking about your passions and where you can make a difference in this world that we share. Remember it doesn’t have to be some “big thing” either. Often times, we may be the one to motivate, inspire, or just bring a smile to one other person. In the grocery store, learn to smile at the cashier, rather than complain. Hold the door open for someone who has packages in their hands. Practice random acts of kindness. By doing these small things, your heart begins to become passionate about caring for others in this world. If we would begin on a small-scale to practice this, our world would begin to feel the effects of love and acceptance rather than the violence and hate that is so prevalent .
Do you find yourself setting goals, only to make little progress in completing them? Do you have a pile of unfinished goals/projects that stare at you, making you feel even more unsuccessful? Do you experience great joy beginning a goal, to soon find yourself off track?
If this is you…more than likely you are sabotaging your own self. You may be focusing on unhealthy behaviors or perhaps you are listening to negative self-limiting voices in your mind.
But WHY would I sabotage my own progress, you may ask yourself. Often times we have feelings of inner shame, anger or unworthiness. The lies that we have listened to all of our lives have become incorporated into our minds causing us to sabotage ourselves. While we are busy living our lives, we unconsciously make choices that sabotage our deepest desires.
In order to make this stop you need to dig deep into your heart to find out where these self-limiting beliefs stem from. Identify the source and begin to replace these thoughts with truth. For example if you feel like a terrible mother, take out a notebook and list reasons that reflect the truth, that you are a great mother. If you struggle with finding positive things to write…look even for the tiniest bits of truth to enable you to begin to alter your negative thinking. Between parents, siblings, friends, spouses, employers, and media we all have been feed negative concepts that we simply”aren’t good enough.” Refute each thought that is negative with truthful, loving and positive words. Sprinkle love to yourself.
This isn’t a one day exercise! It will take time for you to heal from the negative impact others have made in our feelings of worth. I can guarantee you, however, if you begin to shift the negative thoughts into positive thoughts, you will be released and you will begin to experience freedom and empowerment unlike anything you have ever experienced prior to now! You are WORTH it!
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I remember the first time I took an airplane and the flight attendant began to explain all the emergency directives. It struck me odd when she stated that the oxygen mask would fall from the compartment above and I was to put it on myself first...even if I were traveling with little children. I thought to myself that I would immediately jump out of my seat and begin to attach the masks to everyone around me. After all that’s just the way I roll, always helping others before myself! It took a few minutes for me to wrap my head around what was actually being said. IF I didn’t put my oxygen mask on first, then I actually would not be able to help others because I wouldn’t be able to breathe!
Seriously, this concept really took root in my “self- goes-last” brain. The entire flight I contemplated this thought.
How often do we, especially as women, go through life helping everyone else and leaving little or no room for self-care? I have learned since this experience how VITAL it is for me to take care of myself, in order to be of value to those I love. It certainly takes a mind shift at first, but as the truth of this concepts takes seed in your mind, you will be able to begin to put yourself and your needs first. I am not suggesting a selfish attitude, but simply that you learn to step back and give yourself blocks of time to do things that bring health and vitality into your own life. It can be as easy as spending an hour reading, doing a craft, taking a hot bath, gardening, or going for a walk. Whatever activity brings you joy….do it!
Sometimes this will mean that you have to say NO to someone in your life who constantly seems to rob you of your own space. Learning how to say no to others empowers you. Don’t feel guilty, instead feel happy that you have seen the importance of taking care of YOU.
As you incorporate this habit into your life, those around you will see its importance and the strength that it gives you.
Remember, attach your oxygen mask first…and then assist those around you !
Enjoy your day!